Mindset

We all have values in our lives. Things that are important to us. And our sole aim in life is to fulfil these values. When you are fulfilling your values, you feel good, things seem to be going the right way for you. You feel like you are on a roll. You are getting what’s important to you, and you like it. It’s good to get what you want. It makes you feel happy.

But what happens when your values are not being met? You don’t feel good, nothing seems to be going your way, you just can’t catch a break. You feel frustrated, angry and tense. When you break it down, basically you are not getting what you want.

To explain this concept a little clearer, let me put it another way. Think of that little child we have all seen at the shops. You know, the one that wants a toy or a lolly. That toy or lolly is really, really important to that child. It is something that they really want.

Now if their parent buys them that toy or lolly, the child is happy, content. They enjoyed getting what they wanted. Their whole day has been made. But if the parent refuses them and doesn’t buy them the toy or lolly, what happens? They become upset, angry, frustrated, tense, and more likely than not they throw a tantrum. All because they didn’t get what they wanted.

The fulfilment of our values is exactly the same as getting that toy or lolly. Just as that child wanted that toy or lolly, we want to fulfil our values. The only difference is we are in control and we can take action to fulfil our values and therefore be happy in life.

So what are your values? What is important to you in your life? Maybe freedom, or love, or acknowledgement is important to you, or maybe you have more tangible values like family, friends or money. We have many values in our lives and it’s our desire to fulfil these values that drives us through life, that inspires us to do the things we do.

Once you are aware of your values, you can prioritise and align them, and then start to consciously fulfil them. That’s when your life will feel like it has a purpose and that’s when you will feel good, satisfied and only then will you begin to love your life.

If you would like to know more about identifying your values and how to fulfil them, contact us here.

How many times in your life have you had a goal or dream that you have wanted, but because it seemed so far away, so hard to get to, you just gave up on it and didn’t pursue it? Sometimes what we really want seems to be too big, like it is out of our reach, so we never even try to get it.

 

Recently, I drove from the Gold Coast down to Sydney. To avoid traffic and because it was quite warm, I decided to travel at night. Now Sydney is about 1,000kms from the Gold Coast. When I set out on my trip, my goal was to get to Sydney.

 

I couldn’t see Sydney when I started my trip. In fact, I could only see about 200m in front of me, as far as my headlights would shine. But I had faith. I knew that when I had travelled 200m, the next 200m would be lit up and I would be able to see where I had to go next. And when I had travelled that 200m, I would see the next part of my journey. Guess what? I made it to Sydney and I saw where I was going the whole way. Each part of my trip was lit up when I had completed the previous part.

 

This faith, this belief will allow you to achieve any goal you desire, no matter how big it is or how far away it seems. All you have to do is start the journey, complete the section you can see by setting small, achievable goals that will get you to the next section. Once you complete that small goal, the next step will become clear to you. Then take the next step until finally all the little steps, all the small, achievable goals will come together and you will arrive at the destination you set out for, your desired dream or goal.

 

Remember, every journey starts with just one step. So think of a goal you have, a really big one, one that you might think is out of your grasp. Now break it down. What is the first step you need to do that will start you off in achieving your dream? Make that first step achievable, realistic, so easy that there is no way you can fail it. Because success breeds success. If you succeed in finishing this task, in successfully completing this small goal, then it will be easier to achieve the next small goal.

 

And as you succeed along the way, take time to celebrate these achievements. It doesn’t have to be something big, just make it something. If you celebrate something, you get a feeling of accomplishment, and this makes you feel good. And when you feel good, you will be more motivated to take the next step, and more likely to succeed.

 

So now you know that no goal is too big to achieve, no dream is out of your reach. If you break it down into small goals, and have faith that each step will be presented to you along the way, then you can achieve anything.

If you would like to know more about achieving goals in your life, contact us here.

Too many people in the world today, give so much of themselves to others, that they have nothing left for themselves. When your energy, attention, time and effort levels are depleted and

 

emotionally you are drained, how can you help other people?

I used to believe that I had to give as much as I could, otherwise I was being selfish. I thought people wouldn’t like me if I didn’t put them before my own needs. The problem was, as I gave more and more, what I had to offer was getting less and less. It was getting to the point that I wasn’t going to have any more to give.

That’s when a friend taught me about my inner battery. As my charge slowly dropped, so did my ability to help others. He taught me the importance of recharging my battery, keeping it full, so I would have the energy, attention, time and effort to help others, the way I wanted to.

And the only way to keep your inner battery fully charged is to put yourself first. Put all your energy, attention, time and effort into you, into helping yourself. By doing this, you will have a surplus and that’s when you can help others.

So here is how you can keep your inner battery at full charge (and more).

Step 1 – You need to write down some things that you can do for yourself that you will get enjoyment from. These things have to be for you, not for anyone else. List 3 things that you can do every day (eg walk your dog, meditate), then list 3 things that you can do once a week (eg catch up with a friend for coffee, go for a walk on the beach), and finally list 3 things that you can do once a month (eg go to the movies, get a massage).

Step 2 – Start doing these things. The way to implement this system is as follows:

WEEK 1 – Start doing 1 of your daily activities

WEEK 2 – Do 2 daily activities and 1 weekly activity

WEEK 3 – Do 3 daily activities and 2 weekly activities

WEEK 4 – Keep doing your 3 daily activities and do 3 weekly activities

MONTH 1 – As above

MONTH 2 – Continue doing 3 daily activities, 3 weekly activities and do 1 monthly activity

MONTH 3 – Continue doing 3 daily activities, 3 weekly activities and do 2 monthly activities

MONTH 4 – Continue doing 3 daily activities, 3 weekly activities and do 3 monthly activities

It’s that easy. By the 4^th month you will be doing 3 things a day that are just for you, you will be doing 3 things a week that are just for you and you will be doing 3 things a month that are just for you. And you will be surprised at how much you are enjoying your life.

And with your inner battery fully charged and overflowing, now is the time you can help others.

If you would like to know more about recharging your inner battery, contact us here.

Every single person in this world, whether they want to admit it or not, wants to feel important. If you can make someone feel important, they will instantly like you. And the easiest way to make a person feel important is to show a genuine interest in them.

Even though I have done many courses and read many books on this topic, and this means no disrespect to the presenters and authors, my best teacher has been my pet dog, Bear. The genuine interest he shows in me every time I see him, and if you have a dog you would have to agree, makes me feel great.

It doesn’t matter if I have been away for an hour, a day, a week, or even longer, he is still just as excited to see me, and when I am playing with him, nothing else matters to him. He gives me his undivided attention, and it is genuine. This makes me feel acknowledged and this is important to me. And of course, I love him for this.

When you show a real or genuine interest in the person you are talking to, it shows them that you feel what they are saying is interesting. This satisfies their need to feel important because they are telling you something you want to know. Even if what they are telling you isn’t that important to you, it is to them. By putting your focus on them makes them feel good. And they know that you are the one that is making them feel good, so of course they will like you. Now when someone likes you, it’s impossible not to go into rapport with them.

So why is all this important? If you are in rapport with someone, if they like you and you make them feel important then they are more likely to buy into whatever you are selling them. Maybe you are selling them a product, or a service, or you may even be selling them yourself.

Picture this. You are at a party and you spot someone that you would like to get to know better. You go over and start a conversation with them. You give them your undivided attention, you show a genuine interest in them and what they are saying. You make them feel as if they are the most important person in the room.

You have now satisfied a major need that they have and so they feel good, really good. And they know that it was you that made them feel this way. Rapport has been created between you. As long as you keep making them feel good, they will be interested in you. And there is the start of what could be something special.

So go out and practice this skill. With every conversation you have, show a genuine interest in the other person and what they are saying to you. Make them feel important. They will feel good, they will know that you made them feel good, and you will create instant likeability.

If you would like to know more about making people feel important and building rapport, contact us here.

Everything that we experience in our lives, exists only because we internally create that experience. Nothing is real until we decide it is real. And what decide to be real is based on our Internal Map of Reality.

Earlier this year I was travelling to a retreat on the Sunshine Coast, to a place that I hadn’t been to before. So before I left, I typed in the address into my GPS. The location was found and the directions on how to get there were up on the screen.

So I headed off from the Gold Coast to the Sunshine Coast, so looking forward to the retreat, and after about two and a half hours I arrived at my destination. I caught up with some friends that night for dinner and during the conversation I told them about my trip up and the route I took. One of the people there, asked me why I didn’t drive the way they did, which would of cut about 30 minutes off the trip. My GPS was about 5 years old and I hadn’t updated my maps. The route they told me wasn’t in my database and because of this it wasn’t an option I could choose.

So is your Internal Map of Reality database up to date. We can only decide what is real in our lives based on that database. The information we put into that database comes from what we have learnt through experience and what we have been taught (both consciously and unconsciously) throughout our lives. The only way to increase our database is to continue learning.

If our database is limited (as my GPS map database was) then our options or opportunities in life are also limited. If you don’t believe something is real or possible, then you will never get to experience it or achieve it.

So that you can do anything you choose to do in your life, you need to increase your Internal Map of Reality. And the only way to do this is to continually increase your education through gaining information from reading, listening and learning off others through courses, workshops and experiences, as much as you can.

As you update your maps, more and more things will become real for you, and thus the opportunities that will come your way will continue to increase every day.

So here is my challenge for you. Try to learn or experience at least one new thing every day. Slowly you will get to the point that nothing will seem unreal or impossible and anything you choose to do will become a reality.

If you would like to know more about updating your internal GPS, contact us here.